Thursday, 30 March 2017
Tuesday, 28 March 2017
8 Ways to Fake It Till You Make It
Power through these strategies until your self-doubt is gone.
If you’ve ever felt like you’ll get caught out at your job for being incompetent, you’re not alone. According to a recent study conducted by researchers at the University of Salzburg, 70 percent of participants reported feeling like frauds at work.
Researchers concluded that by undervaluing ourselves, we could be unwittingly sabotaging our own careers, as well as undermining our employers. So here are eight ways to fake it till you make it.
1. Remember your wins.
Peter Shankman, CEO of Shankminds Business Masterminds, boosts his spirits by replaying successful results from previous gigs. “Sometimes I’ll play a video of an older speech I gave and listen to the audience,” he says. “They’re laughing—really laughing. It puts me in the mindset to know that if I rocked that speech, there’s no reason I can’t do it again.”
2. Sweat it out.
When he starts feeling down on himself, Shankman wakes up early and boosts endorphins at the gym by lifting or doing cardio. “That right there gives me the chemical boost to say, ‘OK, let’s do this.’” He says this is the same reason why he sometimes exercises right before heading into a big meeting or presentation.
3. Surround yourself with people who believe in you.
For Joyce Maroney, director at the Workforce Institute at Kronos, that meant leaving a comfortable job at IBM several years ago to join a startup—something she had never done before. “The CEO who recruited me, for whom I’d worked in the past, told me she was confident I could do it. Having that reassurance from her was very helpful, and I’m very fortunate to have a CEO again today who believes in these same values.”
4. Talk it out.
When speaker Mike Veny was hired to deliver his first keynote at a state conference, he felt overwhelmed seeing his face on posters and in program handouts. He relies on close friends to serve as sounding boards when anxiety kicks in. “In my experience, self-doubt is normal and part of the process,” he says. “It keeps you humble and hungry to get better at what you do.”
5. See the big picture.
When second-guesses emerge, Veny focuses on why he does what he does—which is to bring awareness to mental health. “My mission in life is to empower people to connect,” he says. “I am grateful for opportunities that keep coming my way to do that.”
6. Validate other people.
When Derek Doepker, author of Why You’re Stuck, began his authorship journey, he felt like an impostor, asking himself things like, Who am I to write a book and why would anyone listen to me? His advice now, after having done it, is to identify a role model. He discovered authors, podcasters and bloggers who resonated with him. “Go tell them the difference they’ve made for you. In giving a sincere compliment and validating their worth, you may just find your own worth is validated in the process.”
7. Do what you love.
Oftentimes, when we get outside our comfort zone, we’re nervous about the new, the unfamiliar. That’s why Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., president of the Hendricks Institute, recommends focusing activities on your “Zone of Genius.” In his book The Big Leap, he explains, “The things you most love to do reflect your unique abilities. When you are doing what you are really meant to be doing, you don’t generate self-doubt.”
8. Never let ’em see you sweat.
Joyce Maroney learned to mask her anxiety because all eyes were on her to create a vision and build the right team. She consciously controlled her demeanor so people would perceive her as having the situation under control. As she learned more, her confidence started soaring, and so did her control. “When I exhibit confidence and composure, it always makes a situation better,” she says. “I take deep breaths, step away from a situation and take a few minutes to reset my composure. I remind myself that this too shall pass.”
Source: http://www.success.com/article/8-ways-to-fake-it-till-you-make-it
4 Powerful Methods to Reach Financial Success In Life
In life, one of the major goals for many people is to be financially successful so they can live life without worrying how they’re going to pay their next bill. Financial independence isn’t created overnight.
You’ll find, those who are financially successful, are those who have worked hard a majority of their lives to get to where they are now. If you’re tired of living pay cheque to pay cheque, this expert guide will give you the powerful methods to reach financial success in life without worrying about money.
Here are 4 ways to become financially successful in life:
1. Ignore The Status Of Others
You may have heard the saying ‘keeping up with the Joneses’. It’s important that when you want to reach financial success that you ignore the status of others. You don’t need to keep up with what others are doing.
Your friends may be spending large amounts of money on insignificant things, this doesn’t mean you have to do the same. Many people fall into the trap of keeping up with others who are living the high life. The problem with this is that it can drain your funds quickly. You need to remember that although their lifestyle and income may be a lot different than yours, when it all comes down to it, no one cares about what you drive, where you live, or how you dress.
They care more about how you treat them. When you stop comparing yourself to others and focus on your own financial well being instead, you’re on the right path to becoming more successfully free in life.
“The single most powerful asset we all have is our mind. If it is trained well, it can create enormous wealth in what seems to be an instant.”
― Robert T. Kiyosaki
2. Only Spend What You Need To
Another area where many people fall short is spending more money on things they want, rather than things they need. Many people use their money on items that aren’t really needed. If you focus on spending only what you need and use the rest of your money to pay down debt, or placing it in savings, you’ll find that over time you’ll be in a much better financial state.
A good way to work out how much you can afford to save is by:
- Tracking your income and what you make every month.
- Deducting your important expenses such as water, electricity, food and house rates etc.
- Keep a small amount for spending on yourself otherwise you will become stale. Spending $20 a week or fortnight is much better than spending $70.
- Place any additional funds, even if it’s $10, into a savings account.
Before making your next purchase, ask yourself, do you really need this or do you merely just want it?
3. Avoid Unnecessary Debt
Many people fall into the trap of taking out a loan in order to upgrade something that really doesn’t need to be upgraded at that time. Examples of this include upgrading a car, buying a new boat, or renovating the home. The key here is to decide whether or not you can wait and save the money first.
Think positively about money and debt . The process of becoming financially secure is all about thinking positively about money and how you will get out of debt. It’s a good idea to sit down and really analyze your income and debts to see where your money is coming from and where it is going.
Consider what we call good debt and bad debt. Good debt is where you may have a loan on an investment property and, depending on your circumstances, may be eligible to access some taxation concessions. Bad debt on the other hand, is a high interest debt that simply eats away at your income such as credit card debt or purchases made on a store card. Focus on paying down bad debt first.
4. Rewrite Your Life Goals and Create A Strategy
Last but not least, it’s important to set major financial life goals that you want to work towards. When you write down your goals you’ll begin to understand what’s required to make them become a reality.
- Where do you want to be in 5 years/10 years/retirement?
- Are there any foreseeable expenses that will emerge that may affect your ability to reach your goals? Such as children’s education or caring for elderly parents.
- Do you have any debts that will need to be paid off before you reach your goals?
- How much income will you need to achieve your goals?
- Do you have any family or other dependents that rely on you?
- What would happen to your family and dependents should you lose your source of income?
- Are your goals realistic given your financial resources?
“Obstacles can’t stop you. Problems can’t stop you. Most of all, other people can’t stop you. Only you can stop you.” — Jeffrey Gitomer
Becoming financially successful is all about the road you take to get there. Even just making some small changes such as reining in credit card spending, paying off credit card debt and starting a savings plan can make a significant difference to your financial well being.
To achieve larger goals such as planning for a comfortable retirement, it’s worthwhile speaking to a qualified financial adviser. A financial adviser can help you to define your goals and work with you on a financial strategy that’s designed to make your goals become a reality.
Source: https://addicted2success.com/success-advice/4-powerful-methods-to-reach-financial-success-in-life/
Friday, 24 March 2017
I Stopped Worrying, Then Happiness Showed Up
The formula for happiness is simple, right? Do things that make you happy, avoid negative thoughts and stress, and voila! Happiness appears like a beam from within and shines all around.
But that’s not at all how it happens. You know and I know it doesn’t work like that. And today, on the International Day of Happiness, the world is talking about how it does. How people, like you and me, can create more happiness in the world around us. And it starts with you.
Happiness works much like love, in mysterious ways. However, science and psychology tell us that brain chemistry alters emotion. But in order to activate those chemicals, we have to talk about habits first.
There is a formula to happiness, and it lies in changing thought patterns. Your patterns—what you do and think and say every day—determine how happy you are. It’s got nothing to do with what’s around you, but everything to do with how your brain works—that inner voice. Happiness is not within your grasp because it is, quite literally, within you.
Happiness: Arrivals & Departures
Happiness does not happen overnight. Duh, you know that, right? You don’t strike a yoga pose or two, meditate for a month or a year, write mantras on post-it notes all over your home, and poof, happiness arrives and is knocking on your front door. There is no doorbell-ringing happiness. Happiness is silence; it is stillness. But it’s hard to be so quiet and motionless with the world whirling around us and inside of us.
We live in the real world where the unexpected is probable and real things happen. Things like extra stressful workdays, fights with our partners, misunderstandings with friends and family, bad thoughts, negative body image days, everything goes wrong days, insomniac nights, self-doubt, worry and the like. It’s all a part of life. And for many of us, it’s the part that messes with our ability to find blissful states.
My Truth
I have lived in a world much like that one. But of all those sensations, it was worry that pushed me over the edge. Am I doing this right? When will I? How can I? What if?
The truth is, I was forever in states of disarray—balancing on balls that no longer wanted to support me, balancing on a scale that said I was too fat, balancing on a line that wanted to see me fall. And I didn’t realize life presented transitions to teach me about me, to assist in the evolution of self.
The prospect of seeing the blessing in a mistake didn’t occur to me; I continued to make them and break them and beat them down and fight them and run away from them until I was too tired to run anymore and had to sit down. And at the end of the day, I blamed myself. I was disappointed in myself, and on some days, I even hated myself.
The truth is I tried to keep myself too busy to notice those feelings. The negative stuff got under-the-rug or in-the-closet treatment; I trudged forward despite and in spite of. The busier I was, the less likely I was to notice that happiness didn’t dwell inside me, but rather it was something I thought could be bought or constructed.
Time Will Tell
Busy is the life that most of us are all about. We are obsessed with time. Every second is accounted for; every moment is a chance to do something, anything. Don’t stop moving and don’t slow down. Just keep going, keep pushing, harder, faster. Time’s a-ticking.
But because we’re so busy being busy, we don’t have time for much of what we love or like, and we rarely, if ever, have time for self-care.
We fall in and out of habits so quickly because we don’t always dedicate time to self—to things that are worthy, that foster happiness, things that burgeon happiness into a forest of self-love. Why can’t we stick to those positive habits that are tough at first, but ultimately have life-changing and life-affirming results? Why are we likely to stick to habits that make us feel like crap rather than the ones that lead to happiness?
This sounds like self-sabotage. But it also sounds like impatience.
Patience Is a Virtue
However, the enigma isn’t so enigmatic—we are a society full of instant everything. If whatever we desire doesn’t happen immediately, we don’t want it. Or maybe we want it, but we don’t want to wait for it, put in the effort, enjoy the process to reap the benefits. We want it now, dammit. We want it now! We. Want. It. Now.
Look at how we live, from the convenience of food, entertainment and quick-fix promises sold with the intention of giving you a flatter stomach, a wrinkle-free face, more room in your closet, flawless eyebrows and slimmer thighs. Without any effort, we have everything our hearts want and desire, and then some. Most of the stuff, we don’t even want. Look around your home, look at your life. Is it the life your dreams are made of? Or is it one that was sold to you?
Take the time to observe what’s around you. Is it what makes you happy? If not, how can you change it? If it doesn’t serve a purpose or make you feel all the feels, get rid of it. You do not have time for filling up space around you while your interior stays empty. Fill the inside, have experiences, feel.
Take the time to consider your activities. Do you do things that bring you joy? If not, why not? And why do you dedicate time to things that make you miserable? Integrity matters here.
Take the time to be still. Ask yourself some serious questions about what you want out of life and who you want to be. If you don’t look within, happiness will only be a mirage, a production of cinematographic proportions. Be mindful of what it is you long for and be honest about it. Reflection must be included in the process, period—there’s no way around it.
Patience Is a Virtue
However, the enigma isn’t so enigmatic—we are a society full of instant everything. If whatever we desire doesn’t happen immediately, we don’t want it. Or maybe we want it, but we don’t want to wait for it, put in the effort, enjoy the process to reap the benefits. We want it now, dammit. We want it now! We. Want. It. Now.
Look at how we live, from the convenience of food, entertainment and quick-fix promises sold with the intention of giving you a flatter stomach, a wrinkle-free face, more room in your closet, flawless eyebrows and slimmer thighs. Without any effort, we have everything our hearts want and desire, and then some. Most of the stuff, we don’t even want. Look around your home, look at your life. Is it the life your dreams are made of? Or is it one that was sold to you?
Take the time to observe what’s around you. Is it what makes you happy? If not, how can you change it? If it doesn’t serve a purpose or make you feel all the feels, get rid of it. You do not have time for filling up space around you while your interior stays empty. Fill the inside, have experiences, feel.
Take the time to consider your activities. Do you do things that bring you joy? If not, why not? And why do you dedicate time to things that make you miserable? Integrity matters here.
Take the time to be still. Ask yourself some serious questions about what you want out of life and who you want to be. If you don’t look within, happiness will only be a mirage, a production of cinematographic proportions. Be mindful of what it is you long for and be honest about it. Reflection must be included in the process, period—there’s no way around it.
The Sound of Happiness
When I slowed down, things changed. I asked myself hard questions, and I let time give me the answers.
I didn’t pressure myself, not like I used to anyway. I sat still and listened to myself breathe and listened to others breathe and listened to the universe breathing, as if in unison with us all. Because that is what the universe does, it breathes with us and it gives us breath.
When I sat still, I could hear what I needed to hear. I started to really notice things. I became a non-robot. I became human again.
When I sat still, I could hear what I needed to hear. I started to really notice things. I became a non-robot. I became human again. And I was both afraid and amused. I finally realized that this was living.
Are you willing to be still, too? To be mindful? Are you willing to face the silence and hear happiness whisper all sorts of secrets in your ear? Be ready, or get ready, because those secrets can help you maintain your true self and push your levels of happiness higher than you ever thought possible.
Trust me, you want to sit still. You want to be quiet. Because when you slow down and sit still and listen, you can begin to feel happiness.
Source: http://www.success.com/blog/i-stopped-worrying-then-happiness-showed-up
Tuesday, 21 March 2017
5 Reasons You Aren’t Successful
Sometimes we’re our own worst enemy. It’s time to get out of the way.
Even the most successful people in the world have failed to achieve success at some point, when failure reared its ugly head and knocked them down. The sting from failure can stick around for quite some time—longer than you might imagine. You’ve probably felt it, too.
But what caused them and you to fail? Here are five reasons you’re not achieving success:
1. You don’t know what success looks like.
The most common reason we fail to achieve success is because we haven’t defined what success looks like to us. Maybe you’re chasing the latest fad or you’ve watched one too many movies, and that’s where your idea of success stems from.
When we chase other people’s visions of success, we’re bound to fail. We can’t be successful on others’ terms because then it’s like we’re living someone else’s life—and that will never bring us happiness. Instead, to achieve success, lay out what it looks like to you. Define success on your terms and chase it.
2. You don’t know what you’re passionate about.
You bounce from one great idea to the next, constantly chasing what sounds good in the moment. Oprah Winfrey once said, “Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.” She realized people won’t go after what they’re not passionate about, at least not for long.
Examine your life. Find what brings you joy, what piques your interest and what you’re passionate about. When you do, success begins to appear.
3. You don’t want to put in the work.
You’ve heard about Malcolm Gladwell and his 10,000-hour rule. He studied and discovered the most successful people are the ones who have put in the hard work. They dive into their craft and study. And they worked and worked some more.
You can’t expect success to come to you just because you want it to. You have to work hard. Only then will you find true success.
4. You don’t surround yourself with the right people.
Jim Rohn has a famous saying: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
We have to surround ourselves with others who are passionate about developing themselves and becoming successful. When you begin to congregate with those who have a success mindset, great things begin to happen. You begin to form new relationships with people who can guide you to the next step. From there, they can introduce you to other successful people. And then you begin to build a network of successful people as your support system.
5. You don’t have a positive mindset.
Everything looks down and out. You don’t see how anyone could be a success. This negative mindset needs to shift to a positive mindset if you want your chances of achieving success to improve.
You can’t find success if you’re stuck in negativity. You won’t see any positives in the world and it will hold you back. As you began to shift your mindset from one of negativity to one of abundance, you begin to see a whole new world.
If you’re struggling to achieve success, look at the five reasons above and begin working on the areas where you’re weakest.
Source: http://www.success.com/article/5-reasons-you-arent-successful
The Motivation Behind 5 of the Most Successful People Ever
Do you wonder what motivates and drives some of the most successful people in the world? Often, the answer to the above question is one of the following: Power, money, or fame. Maybe those are motivators for some people, but not for the most successful.
The factors that keep successful people going are much deeper. We can learn valuable lessons from these people and how they are able to achieve sustained success.
Here is the motivation behind 5 of the most successful people:
1. Michael Jordan – Failure
Michael Jordan is arguably the greatest basketball player of all time. He became one of the best by using failure as motivation. Jordan was quoted saying, “failure makes me work even harder.”
When Jordan was in high school, he failed to make the varsity team his sophomore year. The day he found out he wasn’t on the team, he went home, locked his room, and cried himself to sleep. At that point, he could have given up. Instead, he went to work.
He spent hours practicing basketball and once said when he got tired on the court he would visualize the varsity basketball list without his name. That would give him the motivation to start going again.
The next year, Jordan made the varsity team and averaged more than 20 points per game. His senior year he averaged a triple-double.
He could have become complacent, but he continued to work hard. His work ethic combined with failure as his motivation, helped him win six NBA championships, earn six NBA MVP awards, six-time NBA Finals MVPs, and much more.
“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” – Michael Jordan
2. Oprah Winfrey – Taking Responsibility for Your Life
Oprah Winfrey didn’t grow up privileged. She was poor, abused, and a minority in the 1950’s. The odds were not in her favor. Though most people would have used her background as an excuse, she did not.
Oprah once said on the Larry King Show, “Basically the message of The Secret is the message I have been trying to share with the world on my show for the past 21 years. The message is that you are really responsible for your life. You are responsible for your life.” She also said, “the way you think creates reality for yourself.”
Oprah’s motivation was understanding she could accomplish big things in her life by owning her outcomes. Instead of using her horrible past as a crutch, Winfrey took responsibility for her life.
Some of her accomplishments include a top-rated talk show, the OWN television network, an estimated net worth of $3 billion, and numerous philanthropy projects where she has given away hundreds of millions of dollars.
3. Steve Jobs – Mortality
There is no doubt Steve Jobs changed the lives of millions of people. He was brilliant. The motivation behind some of his biggest accomplishments was death.
Jobs said in a commencement speech at Stanford,” Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure — these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.”
During that speech, he also said, “for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.”
To Jobs, there was no bigger motivator than death. Knowing he would eventually die helped him accomplish outlandish goals. It was even used as a motivator to create some of his boldest inventions including the iPhone and iPad.
4. Walt Disney – Curiosity
Most of Walt Disney’s early life was checkered with failure. He even filed bankruptcy in his early 20s after the failure of a cartoon series in Kansas City. Luckily, for millions of children and adults, his curiosity to do big things kept him going.
Disney said, “If you dream it, you can do it. We keep moving forward, opening new doors and doing new things because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths. All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them.”
This thirst for curiosity helped him produce Mickey Mouse, Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs, and several more Disney characters. Additionally, curiosity led him to purchase swamp land in Florida for the future of the most well-known theme park in the world – Walt Disney World.
“It’s kind of fun to do the impossible.” – Walt Disney
5. Tony Robbins – Hunger
According to Tony Robbin’s website, he is the nation’s #1 Life and Business Strategist. He has helped more than 50 million people worldwide through his audio, video, and life training programs.
Jillian Knox Finley wrote on MyDomaine.com, “We asked Robbins what he believed to be the single most significant gap standing between mediocrity and greatness. His response: hunger.”
According to Finley, Robbins said,”I think the most common thing is hunger. If you look at the people who are most successful on the face of the earth, they don’t just have hunger for a while. They have hunger for a lifetime.”
Robbins, himself, has hunger to help people. His hunger is how he has been able to help so many people over the past 38 plus years.
The most successful people aren’t successful because they were chasing money, power, or fame. They are successful because they have something deep within motivating them to succeed.
Source: https://addicted2success.com/motivation/the-motivation-behind-5-of-the-most-successful-people-ever/
Monday, 20 March 2017
5 Signs Indicating That You are Becoming a Positive-Minded Person
Whoever says that being positive is easy is trying to sell you some unrealistic dream. Don’t get me wrong, I believe that life is phenomenal, but I also know that changing your mindset and seeing the good in any bad situation takes some real work and mental strength. Maintaining a positive attitude depends on your decision and commitment, not on luck.
When I was younger, the environment I came from was toxic and destructive. It was one of those places where positivity doesn’t exist. You know the word, but you don’t know the meaning. I was convinced for many years that I can’t do anything about my life, that life controls me, end of story.
Only the giant feeling of dissatisfaction saved me from living in this misery. Because I wasn’t willing to buy this false belief, I started to read more, to learn more and practice what I learned. When I realized for the first time in my life than I can become a happy person, that I can live with a positive mindset, that was the day I was truly born.
Here are 5 signs which show you that you are on the right path to reaching your ultimate happiness:
1. You recognize negativity
Do you remember those days when you were drowning in negativity and didn’t even bother to change it? It was too natural to you because that was all you’ve ever known.
You know that you are changing when you start noticing a negative environment, negative people and their complaints about life. It will bother you and annoy you. What was once normal, will become a waste of time.
As a positive-minded person, you look for solutions instead of problems. You will see the bright side of life and stop focusing on things you can’t control.
“Well, if it can be thought, it can be done, a problem can be overcome.” – E.A Bucchianeri
2. You’ll cut down on the news
What is the news? Shooting, drugs, corrupted politics? People say that they watch the news to stay informed. Let me tell you something, I stopped paying attention to the news about 2 or 3 years ago, and surprisingly, I am informed well enough. How is that possible? Well, at first, people tell me what’s going on even if I don’t want to hear it. Second, we have social media where we spend enough time to get every piece of necessary information about this world.
Once you become more open-minded and understand how crucial it is to feed your mind with the right information, you’ll spend more time learning some useful and valuable knowledge than knowing what guy died of an overdose of cocaine.
I am not saying that we should ignore what’s happening around us, but sitting in front of the TV and steering on this unpleasant content doesn’t make this world a better place.
3. You care more about others
The truth is that small minds take care of themselves, and great minds take care of others. Negative people are too busy with their unhappy life, their problems and all they never had. It’s tough to find the time for others since their minds are occupied only with themselves.
Once you start becoming more positive and open-minded to the world, you’ll understand that the real wealth, the true fulfillment comes, from helping those less fortunate than you. You’ll understand that there are tons of other people worse off than you, people who struggle with food or water or clothes.
You’ll find the purpose of your life in giving which rewards you with more to give. You’ll feel responsible for sharing your positivity with the world which will eventually become your lifestyle.
4. You take full responsibility for your life
I remember those times when I was filled with negativity. I believed that everything bad happening to me is someone else’s fault. All I was doing was pointing fingers but never actually look in the mirror and see the person who runs this show.
Once you start changing your perspective, you’ll understand that life, your job, quality or your relationship and everything else is a matter of your choices and thus your responsibility. You stop blaming people around and take full control over your life. That’s going to be a moment when you become mind free.
“The price of greatness is responsibility.” – Winston Churchill
5. You understand that happiness is an inside job
This is one of the best indicators that you are radically changing your mindset and becoming a more positive person than ever before. One of the reasons why well-balanced people become confident and excited in life is that they make themselves happy. They don’t wait for this person or that job opportunity or a lottery to give them happiness. They understand the power over their mind.
Once you adopt a positive attitude, you won’t expect others to bring you the fulfillment or satisfaction you are looking for. You’ll become less lonely since you’ll be enjoying the company with yourself. Finding happiness inside of you is the ultimate personal victory in life.
Source: https://addicted2success.com/life/5-signs-indicating-that-you-are-becoming-a-positive-minded-person/
Friday, 17 March 2017
9 Reasons Perfectionism Is a Bad Thing
What’s wrong with wanting something to be perfect? Nothing, unless it’s leading to your failure. And that is exactly what can happen to perfectionists.
Perfectionism refers to an all-or-nothing mentality: Something is either perfect or a failure; there is one right way and the rest are wrong.
Here are nine ways perfectionism may be leading to failure for you.
1. You are never done.
For perfectionists with such high standards, a project is never done because it doesn’t meet the criteria for “perfect.” As a result, you keep working on a task but never complete it. When I was writing my first book, A Happy You: Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness, it took me more than two years to complete it because I was focused on making it perfect before getting it published. Maybe for you it’s a new website, an email to a new client or an article that would help market your business. All that avoidance of sharing your ideas, products or services is delaying and even preventing you and your business from growing.
2. You are stressed and discontent.
Perfectionism is extremely stressful because you’re constantly worrying about making everything perfect. Nothing is ever good enough, and that mindset robs you of ever feeling satisfied and fulfilled from your work.
3. You don’t take risks.
Although ostensibly about wanting things to be perfect, perfectionism is actually fueled by an intense fear of failure. As a result, you often adopt a mindset of, If I can’t do it perfectly, then I won’t even try. So you don’t go for the new job, apply to give a TEDx Talk or pitch a media outlet that could help market your business. In essence, your fear of failure actually makes you fail.
4. Your creativity is suffocated.
If you are constantly stressed about doing something perfectly (and not failing), then your imagination and creativity are squashed. And innovation, which is necessary for positive change and success, is hindered for a perfectionist.
5. You strive to keep everyone happy.
As a perfectionist, you are often a people pleaser, wanting others to think highly of you. With your all-or-nothing thinking, you see yourself as “good” if people like you and “bad” if they don’t. And with people pleasing comes a lot of difficulty making decisions and avoiding important conversations, for fear that you’ll upset someone else. As such, your work is often crippled.
6. You’re highly critical of others.
Perfectionists are constantly judging themselves. And because what we say to ourselves is often reflected in how we interact with other people, you’re probably judging other people, too. You might overtly point out what other people do wrong or be more passive aggressive, saying things like, “It must’ve been nice to be able to go home at 5 p.m. instead of finishing your work.” Being highly critical of others reduces the productivity of your team, and that can lead to your failure.
7. You can’t delegate.
Being a perfectionist often means you have a hard time delegating tasks to others. With an all-or-nothing mentality, you most likely believe that there is a right way to do something and that everything else is wrong. And because other people don’t always have the same understanding, you might not approve of their way. So you think, It's just easier to do it myself. But not delegating when you need to can cause all kinds of problems for your business and stress on yourself.
8. You personalize everything.
A perfectionist has conditional self-worth, meaning you believe in yourself—if things go perfectly, if people like you, if you do a good job. Hearing any kind of negative feedback is pretty tough because you tend to personalize it, thinking something is either perfect or it’s a failure. And then you take it a step further: If I failed, then I'm a failure. This personalizing prevents you from getting the feedback you need to become better, which can ultimately lead to real failure.
9. You never rest.
Perfectionists often have the belief that I will rest (or play) when the job is done. Of course, the job is never done because it's never perfect enough. As such, you are at increased risk for burnout, which is a surefire way to have your business or career fail.
Source: http://www.success.com/blog/9-reasons-perfectionism-is-a-bad-thing
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